There has been a lot of talk about marriage going around Besh’s preschool class. Each week, he tells us who is going to marry. The same girls are always at the top of his list but they rotate. Apparently, some of the girls are also talking about getting married at home. When Besh told me her wanted a playdate with a particular girl because he was going to marry her, it occurred to me for the first time to get his take on marriage. The following was our conversation:
Me: Besh, what does it mean to be married?
Besh: It means you stay together. You stay together forever.
M: What do you do when you’re married?
B: You build houses and farms and stores. And houses.
M: But, Daddy and I are married and we don’t build houses and farms and stores.
B: Well, I will. If Liah marries me, I will build houses and farms and stores and houses with her.
M: How do you feel about the person you are married to (forgive the bad grammar here, I was just into the conversation. Also, I haven’t slept in four months!)?
B: Excited. You are excited and sometimes you clap your hands and say, “Yay!”
M: Do you think I’m excited when I see Daddy?
B: Yes. You are.
M: How old do you think you have to be to get married?
B: 12 or 13.
M: How old do you think Mommy was when I married Daddy?
M: How old do you think Daddy was when we got married?
At this point, Besh was clearly done with the conversation. But, I have to remember to ask him questions like this more often. Because the answers are so entertaining!