Archive for November, 2010

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Talking Empire Strikes Back with Besh

November 30, 2010

Hot on the heels of the Star Wars viewing on Saturday, I showed Besh The Empire Strikes Back on Sunday.  I had to run an errand during the first part, but I hurried home to be sure and catch his reaction to The Moment.  You know The Moment.  Everyone remembers the first time they hear Darth Vader uttering those four cursed words.

So with Luke using his one remaining hand to hold onto the strategically placed metal pipe in the middle of a huge hole of nothingness, Vader reveals the family secret.  I watch Besh’s face–nothing.  No reaction.  Maybe he’s taking it all in.  Luke protests, Vader starts talking about forming the greatest team since Hulk Hogan and Andre the Giant, and Luke takes the plunge.  Still nothing from Besh.  I can’t take it anymore.

Daddy: “Besh–didn’t you hear what Darth Vader just said?”

Besh: “Huh?”

“Did you hear him?”

“Oh.  Yeah.”

“What did he say?”

“I dunno.  Something about ruling the galaxy.”

“The other part!  Darth Vader just said he’s Luke’s dad!”

“Seriously?  But…but he’s bad!”

Then it clicked.  But we watched the rest of the movie before we talked about The Moment and some other important topics.

The conversation continued on into dinner where I told Besh there were two important things he needed to remember from the movies this weekend.  First up: Han shot first.

Daddy: “You remember when Han Solo shot the green guy in the bar?”

Besh: “Oh, the guy with the gun?”

“Yes.  So it’s important you know–they changed the movie.  In the original version, Han Solo shot him first.  Greedo–”

“Who’s Greedo?”

“The green guy.”

“Oh.  Green.  Greedo.  Got it.”

“Greedo never shot first, Han just shot him.”

“Why?”

“Because Han wasn’t a very nice guy before Luke met him.”

“Oh yeah.  And then Luke and the gray haired guy–”

“Obi Wan.”

“Yeah, him.  They talked to Han Solo when Luke was doing his lightsaver practice and turned Han good.”  [Yes, he calls it a lightsaver, I'm working on it.]

“That’s right.  Han becomes a good guy because he’s friends with Luke.”

“Yeah! And now he’s a good guy and a good friend!”

The second big topic at dinner was that I told him he could not reveal that Darth Vader was Luke’s dad to any of his school friends.  If they’ve seen the movie, he can talk about it with them, but otherwise I’m not raising a Spoiler.  He got the message.  But then he had a question.

“Daddy, when Luke went into that cave and fought Darth Vader and his helmet blew up, why did he see Luke’s head?”

“Why do you think he saw Luke’s head?”

“I don’t know.”

“Well, I think it was a dream.  The Force was telling him that if he gives in and kills Darth Vader, he’d be just as bad as Darth Vader.  So Luke needs to figure out a way to beat Darth Vader without killing him, because if he kills Vader he’ll be bad.”

“Oh.  Hey–I’ve got a GREAT idea!”

“What?”

“They can cast a magic spell on Luke’s lightsaver so that it stands up all by itself.  And then when Darth Vader comes the lightsaver will kill Darth Vader but Luke didn’t touch it so he didn’t kill him!”

I figured we’d had enough heavy conversations to try and tackle transferred intent, so instead Sara and I agreed that was an interesting idea but that Luke would probably still need to find a way to not kill Vader.

Although it’s not a bad idea.

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Besh’s observations on Star Wars

November 27, 2010

Today was a monumental day, the day Besher first saw Star Wars.  Last week he announced he was ready, and yesterday I found the last boxed set of the original trilogy at Costco ($5 cheaper than Amazon yeah!).

Of course, by original I mean it’s the Luke-Leia-Han trilogy.  Not original as in before Lucas messed with it in the 90s.  But I digress.

Mommy was concerned that parts of it might be too scary, so I watched most of it with Besh.  Just, you know, to make sure he wasn’t scared.  He wasn’t.

Here are some of Besh’s observations during the movie:

“Did he drive that floating car?  That doesn’t look safe.”

“Why doesn’t R2D2 fly?”

“How did they get the recording in R2D2?”

“See him?  [Luke.]  He’s wearing white.  He’s a good guy.”

“Wait, those other guys wearing white [Stormtroopers] are bad guys?”

“How did they get Darth Vader’s costume on?”

And, when he asked his favorite part, he eagerly responded:

“The lightsaber fight with Darth Vader and the gray haired guy!”

Daddy: “You mean Obi Wan Kenobi?”

“Who’s that?”

“The gray haired guy.”

“Yeah.  He fought Darth Vader.  Did you know he fought Darth Vader?”

“I did know that.  I’ve seen it, you know.”

“When you saw it, who did you think would win?  Did you think ‘He’s going to win!’ ‘Oh, no, he’s going to win now!’ ‘Wait, now he’s winning!’?”

I laughed and told him I couldn’t remember.  It was been a while.  But I’m glad this huge event has taken place.

Tomorrow, he and I are going to have a long conversation about Han and Greedo.

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“I’m thankful for my little brother”

November 24, 2010

The title of this post comes from the Thanksgiving card that Besher made at school and presented to Isaac today.  It had a drawing of a turkey and this post’s title which he had dictated to one of his teachers.  He handed the card to Isaac, at which point they both started giggling and Sara and I totally didn’t tear up.  Not a bit.  Nope.  Completely dry eyes.

It’s been an amazing year with Isaac’s birth and the best brother relationship we could imagine–actually, far better than we ever imagined.  And we hope it continues for next year, but we’re thankful for it now.

One other story to be thankful for, a conversation Besh and I had in the car the other day:

Besh: “Daddy, I’m glad I have you and Mommy in my family.”

Daddy: “We’re glad we have you too, Besh.”

“Yeah, because if I had another family and then I met you and Mommy then I would have to be in your family too.”

“Oh, you would come over to our family.”

“Yeah!  Well, I would stay with my first family but I’d be in your family too.  I’d have two families.”

 

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So your feelings would be happy

November 20, 2010

Besh has always been a sweet boy, so almost every time he and I go to Costco we end up at the flower section so he can pick out a bunch of flowers for Mommy.  (Every once in a while the bouquet is for Nonni, but 99% it’s Mommy.)  He always insists on carrying the flowers in an presenting them, but the other day was the first time he also had a little speech presented.

Besh: “Mommy, I picked out these flowers for you so that your feelings would be happy.  Are they happy?”

Rest assured, they were.

But on the flip side, Besh has hard a hard time transitioning back to school.  Nothing huge or even unexpected–being out of school for so long and then unable to do all his normal activites even when he returned for a bit definitely will take some time to get over.  But yesterday was the first time he expressed his feelings over the glasses.

“I feel different with my glasses on.  I don’t feel like Besher anymore.”

He told Mommy this earlier in the day, then told us both at dinner.  He’s still getting used to everything, and I think in a few weeks when he gets an actual prescription in the glasses so they help him see (rather than just protect the eye post-surgery) he’ll start to feel differently.

Still, we wish we could give him flowers to make his feelings happy.

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Besh on getting old

November 8, 2010

A quick chat tonight between Mommy and Besh.

Mommy (sadly): “You know, it’s going to be my birthday soon.”

Besh: “Why do you say it like that?”

“Well, the older you get, the less you want to get old.”

“Are you going to be as old as Daddy?”

“Yeah, I am.”

“Are you going to have scratchy cheeks like him?”

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